Clairvoyancy and Mediumship Guidance

Not getting what you want

Not hearing what you want to hear ……by Life and Business Coach Alison McVey   

There are two main reasons why we don't always get what we want. The first is that you want something that is not actually right for you. The second is that it is perhaps not the right time for this thing to happen to you. Other things need to happen first.

How can you possibly want something that isn't right for you? Surely, if it wasn't right for you, you wouldn't want it? You'd be surprised.

Think back to when you were a small child. Can you remember your wish lists, the letters that you wrote to Santa requesting almost everything that was in the catalogue? Can you remember how fervently you wanted things, as though getting them were a matter of life or death? Doesn't it all seem silly now that you are an adult and have an adult's perspective? The adults around you could easily see that you were dazzled by the promises made by all these toys. That you wanted them because other people had them and you wanted to be the same, or other people didn't have them and you wanted to be better. You might have cried and stamped your feet and called then mean when they said 'no', but they knew better than you what you needed.

And so it is as adults. When you find yourself an unwilling singleton amongst couples, it's only natural to think 'I need a partner too, that way I won't be different'. And because the seeking is prompted by a need for social acceptance and a need to be 'normal', your perception and thinking can also become slightly skewed. There can be pressure from friends and family too, 'have you met anybody nice yet?' They might mean well but there's nothing as unsettling as other people keeping your unmet needs at the forefront of the agenda. So, you fix on something quickly like snatching any old sweet from the shop, not because you have chosen it because you liked it but because it was a sweet and it was there.

Just as our parents could see what we couldn't see as children, so it is that spirit can see what we can't see as adults. This is why, when we find ourselves wanting something 'just to be like other people' or because we are dazzled by the lure of financial security or even a good looking, socially successful man, spirit will hold back because spirit can see more than we can.

 Spirit knows that if you can learn to listen to yourself, to become more self-aware, you will find that there are much better things for you in the future than you can possibly imagine. 

How can you help yourself in a situation where you want something very badly and yet you have been told that it is not going to happen? Here are some suggestions that might help you.

 You will need a pen and a piece of paper and maybe a close friend who can help you.

1. Write down what it is that you want and then write down all the things that you will get as a result of having this in your life. If you have your heart set on a specific someone, write down all the things that you will get from having a relationship with this person. Your list might include things like love, security, companionship, fun, shared experience.

2.Now find some sheets of paper and set aside the same number of sheets of paper as you have words on your list. Write each word on the top of a sheet of paper.

3.Under each heading, list what the other ways might be that you can get the same result. This might take some time to do.

4.Make a Treasure Map of all the things that would improve your life just now. When it comes to picturing the things that you want, write your specific request with the name followed by 'or something better', e.g. 'John or something better'. This gives spirit the opportunity to send you what you want or something better.

5.Be kind to yourself and show the world that you value who you are.